This Christmas, give time
With the typical financial pressures of the Christmas festive season soon to be upon us, it’s a good time to think about Presents vs Presence.
Our society teaches us to express our love by giving presents. Every Christmas we not only hear of the record-breaking volume of money spent at retailers around the country, but we’re also bombarded with images on TV with shoppers armed with many shopping bags.
For many of us this can create feelings of inadequacy, or failure in the lack of ability to provide what we would like for our families.
So here is a gentle reminder about remembering the power of our presence over presents.
SMALL ACTS OF KINDNESS
How did you feel the last time one of your children came home from school with a card they made saying how much they loved you?
Or when a friend just called to say hello, because they were thinking about you?
You know it makes you feel good….! Gestures do not need to be large or have a hefty price tag to feel meaningful.
PRESENTS SOON GET FORGOTTEN
Presents soon get forgotten, whilst the memories of time spent with a loved one can last forever. It is especially easy and common these days to be in the company of family and friends but not be connected – often due to social media and electronic devices.
Activities like reading, playing a game with a child, going on a picnic, bike riding, and being truly present with no technological distractions, will leave a lasting positive impression.
For more ideas see Enjoying summer on a budget.
THE GIFT OF TIME SPOKEN BY OTHERS
“Treat every moment as a gift, that is why it is called the present.”
“Gifts of time and love are surely the basic ingredients of a truly merry Christmas”
“The greatest gift that you can give to others and to yourself is time. Embrace the gift of time whether you give it or receive it.”
“The greatest gift you can give someone is your time, your attention, your love, your concern.”
No material gift will ever replace your being present for those you love … and to someone who loves you, your attention and presence is the one unique gift that no one else can offer.
Have a fun, safe and merry Christmas with the company of family and friends!
There are over 200,000 single-parent families in New Zealand, and many more with a stay-at-home parent – plenty are living on a single income! Whether this is just for now